Practice Diversification: Consulting to family-owned businesses*

by:

       R. Phillip Colon, Ph.D. & Jerry I. Kleiman, Ph.D. [1]

Wanted: Professional experienced in conflict resolution, mediation, and communication skills development. Must like drama, be able to see the larger picture, and identify obstacles to goal achievement. The ability to facilitate group interaction is a plus. Flexible hours, good pay.

Many psychologists seeing such a want ad could readily identify themselves as potential candidates to fill such a position. In fact, the ad pretty much describes much of what we do in our clinical practice of helping couples and families. What if, however, the advertisement was for a professional to work with family-owned businesses. Would psychologists still see themselves as viable candidates for the job?

The above question is not a hypothetical one. With the advent of managed care and the saturation of the market place, quite a number of psychologists have been rethinking their practice and the services they provide. If one’s aim is to diversify one’s clinical practice, psychologists must ask themselves what new markets they can enter where their skill sets are applicable. Considering the depth and breadth of the education and training of psychologists, the answer is most anywhere that involves people and the treatment of the human condition.

Clinical psychologists are accustomed to working within the confines of the treatment room. Consistency can be better established in such a context and parameters are more easily set to control and measure therapeutic variables and treatment effectiveness. Family psychologists, however, are trained to view the individual within the context of the family and to understand the family within the context of the larger ecosystem. As family therapists we often use our client’s extended family as a resource for remediation, healing and growth. If a client in our care expressed conflicts or issues with a spouse or a family member, few would have reservations about asking that spouse or family member to come in for a session. If, however, a client expresses conflicts or issues with family members with whom they are in business with, we tend to see the issues as occurring within the workplace and therefore outside our scope of expertise and practice. Yet moving the treatment process to the place of business where the family members interface can be seen as a logical extension of what we are already doing as family therapists. The task of the family business consultant/family psychologist is to remediate family relationship problems as they are manifested in and impact the family-owned business. The goal of the consultant is to potentiate these relationships in both the business and the family.

Certainly, business problems require the attention of those trained in business and finance. Business advisors and consultants, however, lament how sound business advice can be ignored or rendered ineffective by members of a family-owned business . Closer examination of these situations often reveals that family relationship tensions, conflicts and hidden agendas are impeding business planning and functioning. The media is ripe with stories of families shattered and blasted by conflict in the family-owned business. Who is better suited to help in these situations than the family psychologist?

CASE ILLUSTRATION:

The authors were contacted by Mr. and Mrs. X, co-owners of the X & Y Contracting Company, a mid-sized service business. Their two sons, Tom and Eddie, ages 32 and 28 respectively, were also in the business. The parents saw Tom and Eddie as the source and cause of the many conflicts, arguments and problems in the business. Relations between the sons and the parents, particularly with the father, were at an all time low. Conflicts often escalated into shouting matches, even in front of employees and customers. There were several physical altercations between the older son and his father. The two sons had left the business some years earlier to start their own competing business, but were arrested and fined for illegal business practices. The parents bailed their sons out and took them back into their family business.

The problems in the X & Y Company intensified when the father became ill, leaving his sons to run the business while he recuperated. When the father returned, the sons maneuvered to maintain and further their control of the business.

The family and the business were in crisis. The stakes were high. The parents needed the sons working with them in the business and the sons were dependent on the business. The non-family employees were nervous about the security of their jobs and there were concerns that the non-family managers would leave for more stable employment. As bad as it was, the drama of the circumstances actually provided the impetus to effect constructive changes within the family and the business.

In the beginning phase of our work with the family, we served as referees, establishing rules of conduct between the family members and bringing stability to the workplace. As the family became more effective in controlling their words and actions, interpersonal tensions could be identified and addressed. Long-standing anger, resentment, and sibling rivalry were crippling the operation of the business. For years, the business had been the primary means of relating within and between the generations. Interactions within the family were often characterized by chaos, with the business reflecting similar disorganization. There were no set procedures for handling different aspects of the business, there was confusion regarding roles and responsibilities, and as is not unusual in smaller family-owned businesses, there were no regularly scheduled meetings to discuss business issues.

Severe marital discord between the parents was identified , along with pathological alliances between the parents and their sons. The parents/owners could not agree on what course of action to take regarding the sons and often undermined each others unilateral efforts. Because of the father’s tendency to inappropriately attempt to control his sons, the mother would often side with them, nullifying the father’s authority. Little effort was made by her to distinguish when her husband’s actions may have been appropriate.

Initially, most of the consultations took place at company headquarters, allowing the authors access to key non-family personnel. These employees were able to give perspectives that could not be provided by the family members themselves. Meetings were held one to two times per week with the goal of establishing a common working platform among family members. As progress was made, the frequency of meetings decreased and the location of meetings was transferred to the authors’ offices.

Using the business as the context for interventions, the authors focused on remediating familial patterns of interaction. Expectations were articulated, clarified and differences were negotiated. Family members were taught effective communication skills. Formal business meetings were scheduled and the family members were coached on how to set an agenda. Business needs were reviewed, titles and job descriptions were developed and formally assigned by the parents/owners. A system of accountability and job performance review was established. .

As progress was made in overall functioning of the business, improvements in the relationships between family members also occurred. Marital issues between the parents were addressed. One of the sons had significant impulse control problems, and was diagnosed as being clinically depressed. He was referred to a psychologist and a psychiatrist. As trust and confidence in each other continued to develop, the topic of business succession , i.e. who will lead the business when the parents retire, was addressed by family members .

Some words of caution: 1) be vigilant for possible conflicts of interests, as they arise more frequently when working with family-owned businesses and 2) do not practice beyond the scope of expertise, but refer to and collaborate with business consultants and advisors. For example, requests can be made of the consultant to treat individual family members or employees. To work with an identified patient would diminish the consultant’s capacity to work with and have access to the larger system. It is better to make a referral elsewhere. There are also times when the consultant may be asked advice about an aspect of the business that they are ill equipped to answer. Remember, you are a relationship expert and aren’t expected to know all aspects and facets of the business. Ask questions or develop your own resources to consult with and access. An excellent resource for other consultants, study groups, mentors and reading material is the Family Firm Institute ( http://www.ffi.org or 617-789-4200).

It has been estimated that over 90% of businesses in the U.S. are either family owned or controlled. Yet only about 1/3 of family businesses survive into the second generation. These percentages suggest that principals in family-owned businesses would do well to acknowledge the unique issues involved in running and working in a family enterprise. Recognizing this need, many universities are beginning to sponsor family business forums. Family Psychologists working with family-owned businesses can have an important impact on the welfare and well-being of the family, the business, and the many who are employed by them. Those who can make the needed conceptual shift and are willing to learn new concepts and skills can be successful as consultants and relationship experts to family-owned businesses .

*Reprint from the Newsletter of the American Academy of Family Psychologists, V3(1), June, 2001

 [1] Drs. Kleiman and Colon are co-founders of Optimal Resolutions, Inc., a consulting group specializing in family-owned businesses. For more information please contact Dr. Colon at 516/294-8914.